Well I just seem never to appear on their radars. I'm neither despised nor adored.

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Originally posted by The Other:
Well I just seem never to appear on their radars. I'm neither despised nor adored.

Buy a sportscar or something.

Buy better clothing, get a good cologne, and an expensive, but not flashy watch.

Don't talk too much, either.

Oh easy. Why didn't I realise money was the answer? And here's me thinking I need someone to like me for who I am.

sorry, deeply sarcastic mode.

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Why didn't I realise money was the answer?

Its not the answer, its a recommended lubricant.

Here's you needing to like you for you are before you can expect anyone else to like you for who you are.

Bottom line, dude. always the bottom line.

There was a time when I did like myself for who I am, and it still got me nowhere. Now it's changed because I'm fed up.

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Originally posted by Black Jacque:

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Why didn't I realise money was the answer?

Its not the answer, its a recommended lubricant.

Sounds like a Woody Allen quote. Soo true.

*snort*

I filled in an online profile once for a dating site. And one of the questions was "how important is it to you that your partner earns a lot more than you?"

WTF?

I wonder if they ask the guys, too. And I wonder what that means. That we have all these people only wanting to be matched with people who earn more than them?
That pisses me off.

That said, I want (and have) someone who earns about the same as I do, I think the inequality would bother me, somehow.

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I think the inequality would bother me, somehow.

Wow, you really are mercenary, aren't you? You never did any charity work?

I don't know, am I?
I just don't want to have to ask my husband for money. Or have him ask me for some.

I wouldn't want to be the one paying for most of the stuff and having him have to ask for whether we can buy this or that.

And I wouldn't want to have to wheedle for whether we can buy something, knowing that he'd have to pay the bigger part of it.

I know most people are more relaxed about money, but I've got this big internal wanting to be secure and self sufficient individually thing going on.


And yes, I've done charity work. But if I considered my marriage CHARITY WORK it would be a pretty fucked up relationship.

Alright guys.
I'm taking this experiment to level two, and for that i might need your help.
Even though i'm a (non-ugly) woman, responses have been limited. That partly disproves the hypothesis that "it's easier for girls". Most responses were to the pictures alone (wich are semi-professional). And by the way, guys: the pictures most people post of themselves are *very very* bad. A lot of people hide half their faces, or post such bad and ugly pictures i suspect they're doing it deliberately. But they *do* matter.

So, next step: I'm pimping my profile to see if there is a significant difference not only in the *amount* of responses, but also if it makes a significant difference in the amount of responses from people i might be interested in.
Which are: 25-35, smart and literate, funny, considerate and good conversationalists. I'd prefer to make contacts internationally, though OK-Cupid is convinced i only want to talk to people from The Netherlands.
An interesting job is a plus, income is irrelevant.
Looks -for now- are of little interest, because most of the pics people have up stink to high heaven, so they're not representative.

My spanky new profile needs to be:
-more specific
-less garrulous
-more funny
-more laid back

Important in these profiles is "Show not tell". Do not tell me you're funny/smart/different when there's nothing in your profile to substantiate it. If your profile makes me laugh, i will think you're funny. If you say smart things, i'll think you're smart and so on.

I'm going to give that a shot later tonight: try to practice what i preach; and i'd appreciate if anyone still interested in this experiment would help me out and give some feedback.
Let's see if we can't figure out how to circumvent or avoid Evil Net-Dating Karma.

(Note: All of this *still* in all good concience. So again no lying about looking for a date, being up for sex: and no lying about myself.)

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And yes, I've done charity work. But if I considered my marriage CHARITY WORK it would be a pretty fucked up relationship.

BWAAAHAAAHAAA!

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Originally posted by Black Jacque:

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Why didn't I realise money was the answer?

Its not the answer, its a recommended lubricant.

NOT RECOMMENDED.

Never again.  

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Originally posted by Babylon the Bride:


I wonder if they ask the guys, too. And I wonder what that means. That we have all these people only wanting to be matched with people who earn more than them?
That pisses me off.

I linked to this in the other thread.

Hee! I was just telling BtB about "that site Tongster linked to" Thanks, dude! That's just... hilarious.

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Originally posted by Tongster:

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Originally posted by Babylon the Bride:


I wonder if they ask the guys, too. And I wonder what that means. That we have all these people only wanting to be matched with people who earn more than them?
That pisses me off.

I linked to this in the other thread.

Diamond Lounge, one of my favourite paradox.

Punky, perhaps your limited number of responses are due to the fact that some guys really do read the profiles and are not interested in contacting someone with whom they have no chance of getting a date? Other than that, I think your approach is good. I'd rather read something entertaining than the normal list of generic traits ("laid-back" is so common as to be nearly meaningless in these things). If I'm looking to contact a girl, I look for hooks in her profile, something to ask her about, specific movies and bands, or an interesting, unusual job or hobby. Including those will make it much easier for any attentive person to write you a message.

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Originally posted by Punkyfins:
Most responses were to the pictures alone (wich are semi-professional). And by the way, guys: the pictures most people post of themselves are *very very* bad. A lot of people hide half their faces, or post such bad and ugly pictures i suspect they're doing it deliberately. But they *do* matter.

I saw a thing on TV a few weeks ago where a guy was talking about how to do well with these types of sites. This was the first thing he said. GET A PORTRAIT TAKEN! The person's first impression of you is that picture on the site. Don't take it yourself. It will never do you justice.

Portraits make you look better than you actually are.