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Originally posted by CancerDusk:
Thanks!

I just now, at this moment, finally figured out what's going on in your avatar. Am I going insane?

you are now. nom nom nom

I only just saw this post, thank you for posting it. It was interesting.

I talked with a woman who I had went out with after meeting her on OK cupid, she said almost every message she recieves is explicitly about sex. It makes me kinda feel bad that none of the people I message, save for this one, message me back more than once, if that.

I need to learn how to meet people in the real world, I think.

here's my site.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?u=robthedisciple

I did the dating quiz on the main page:

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Steady, reliable, and cradling her tenderly. Take a deep breath, and let it out real easy...you are The Slow Dancer

Your focus is love, not sex, and for your age, you have average experience.

How amusing.

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But you're a great, thoughtful guy, and your love life improves every year.

What twaddle.

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There's also a powerful elimination process working in your favor: most Playboy types get stuck raising unwanted kids before you even begin settling down. The women left over will be hot and yours.

Oh great! So I'll have someone else's kid! Without even getting laid! That'll do WONDERFUL things for my sex life.

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Your ideal woman is someone intimate, intelligent, and very supportive.

While you're not exactly the life of the party, you do thrive in small groups of smart people. Your circle of friends is extra tight and it's HIGHLY likely they're just like you. You appreciate symmetry in relationships.

and yet you see all that as bad.

Mark. stop looking on the black side of everything. stop seeing only lemons and clouds. start seeing silver linings, PLEASE. because you know full well how much i am in support of you, and even *i* am about to come right up to london (on my return, anyway) and KICK YOU IN THE BOLLOCKS.

for serious.

please.

I did OkCupid, it were alright as a people-meeting tool. And I did meet one person, and if I could be bothered I guess I could meet more.

But really, I don't trust the fact that it tells me I'm only a 94% match with myself.

And some of the messages are just down-right weird!!!

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Originally posted by St.Barbarella:
I did OkCupid, it were alright as a people-meeting tool. And I did meet one person, and if I could be bothered I guess I could meet more.

But really, I don't trust the fact that it tells me I'm only a 94% match with myself.

And some of the messages are just down-right weird!!!

it does that for a few reasons...

one is simply that some of your questions you answer one way and say that your ideal match would answer another.

Another is you can only have a certain ammount percentage.

lastly, sometimes people contradict themselves with out knowing it. Computers cant differentiate.

Ahhhhhh, yes, that makes sense now about the 'how will your perfect match answer this question'...

i am using okcupid too,i have enjoyed it so far,but need more people to talk to on there
this is my profile
http://www.okcupid.com/profile?u=manydjs
any suggestions on improvements??

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Originally posted by manydjs:
i am using okcupid too,i have enjoyed it so far,but need more people to talk to on there
this is my profile
http://www.okcupid.com/profile?u=manydjs
any suggestions on improvements??

On the assumption that you are genuinely asking for constructive criticism, and with the caveat that I am almost certainly not your target audience, I'd say the following:

Typos and misspellings - your profile is full of them. It doesn't give a good impression: either you don't know any better, or you are sloppy and lazy, and neither of those options is attractive.

Your very first paragraph includes the statement that you are "too lazy". Do you really want people to think this of you? Do you think they'd find it attractive?

I'm really good at "errm you tell me" - No! We don't know you, so we can't! What are you good at? You could go serious here ("particle physics") or come-hither ("I make a truly fabulous dry martini") or jokey ("I can balance a spoon on my nose while singing the Norwegian national anthem"). Pick something you really are good at and that you might think would attract attention.

Who are you in the pub or at home with? What are you doing?

Nope spot on! thats what i wanted! i am going to go work on it now

Thank you!

Sin number 1: Misspelling Neil Gaiman.

Okay, harsh critique:

You've got quite an interesting reading list here, you're clearly not superficial if that is really what you enjoy reading. Your music interests are eclectic. And that's the most positive thing I can say about you.

Your spelling, as Hive said, is atrocious.
It looks like you haven't put any effort into it.**
Your way of expressing yourself has the same air of "couldn't be bothered", probably because you want to sound laid back and chilled?

What gives me that impression? You've basically written a list of stuff. Stuff you listen to, mainly. You end each list with "and many more" (and once: stuff I can't think of at the moment.), which is one of those easy to say phrases that don't mean anything.

Any question that can't be answered with a list, you don't waste space on.

First things people notice about you? "God knows".
What you're doing with your life? "just ticking by."
Your fridays? at home and at the pub.

Great. So here's a guy who doesn't do anything with his life, has no idea (and can't be bothered imagining) what he comes across as, is good at things that are chiefly useful when people need someone to whine at but are no fun***, does what 90 percent of all guys do on a friday (sit at home or go out) and he listens to music.

What do I actually know about you after all those words you put down? Who are you? What makes you different from other guys? I have no idea.
Why should I go out with you? Is there anything that remotely suggests it would be fun going out with you?

And that, really, is the point. It's not about a comprehensive catalogue of your listening habits. It's about giving people an idea of what it's like hanging out with you.
And right now it sounds like the best I can expect is going to a pub with you, having to do my best to make conversation until you're less shy and more "ok" and then getting to discussi music or tell you my personal problems. Is that what you're advertising?

I'd suggest sticking a little fun into the description. You've got space for it in the "friday night" question. Use it to tell girls what you wanna do with them (The cleaned up version).
And do spend some time thinking about what other people notice about you. (Ask friends if you're really stumped.)
And maybe there is one goal you have that you could mention in the "what I'm doing with my life" segment. Surely, there's one thing you want to do?

Anyway, good luck with that!

**what makes me say that? The fact for instance that you vary between capital letters and no capital letters completely at random: "Randy newman")
***you realise that if you leave it like that you're advertising chiefly for the girls who need a shoulder to weep on before they move on to their next love affair?

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*enters thread*

*finds own words*

*finds knife and fork*

*finds salt*

*chows down*

Yay and congrats, Mark.

(Also, you put it very amusingly ).

Well, it's early days, but I think I've found a winner, anyway.

fantastic! and your previous post made me giggle

yay Mark!

Yay! Seriously Mark, yay!

She's in Bristol right now, finishing her degree, but she's moving to London in the summer. But we've been chatting for almost a week now and it's be good. As you know most of my experiences on these sites have left me highly cautious (either too good to be true, in one case, or just not enough there to warrant enthusiasm), but this time it's hitting all the feel-good and no doubts at all.

Going to be a long few months...

that's awesome mark

you should come down and visit her and me all in one weekend!