Bah

Maybe someday, but right now that queen-size that I don't share is pretty darn sweeeeeet.

These days sanity over sex is what I'm all about.

i miss sharing a bed. almost as much as i miss the actual sex. just the waking up beside someone. *sigh*

So I met a girl who was beautiful and adventerous and intelligent and just a wonderful person in general. We were camping out on Lake George which is one of most beautiful and romantic places on earth with a number of other people. During the trip we took a canoe trip out to some of the other islands spending a lot of time together. Intimate conversations ensued. Massages were and little intimacies as such were exchanged. It was.....wow. Only one catch, she has a boy friend in Finland, which is rocky but still existant...

So the night after the trip, she offered me a place to sleep on her floor for the night as I had a 4 hour trip home and it was nearly 2am. The was one of the hardest nights of my life. So desperate was my need to crawl into bed and just cuddle that it hurt.

Anyhow, what Limer wrote reminded me of that. It's funny being a guy that the urge for that close intimacy is so incredibly stronger than that of sex, heh.

Maybe this should be posted under a new "oh my god I need to get some cuddling thread"

quote:

Originally posted by Limertilly:
i miss sharing a bed. almost as much as i miss the actual sex. just the waking up beside someone. *sigh*

It's nearing winter.

Stealing body heat.

'nough said.

I played Chess twıce last nıght and once thıs mornıng! Even had people watchıng. The advıce that they blurted out was annoyıng though.

that's probably the thing i miss most about my pondscummy ex. every single night of our lives, when going to sleep, he would set up so that he was curled around my back, one arm under my neck, the other caught in mine, warm and huggy and lovely. and that's how i fall to sleep easiest. there wass no lying awake wondering about this bit of stress or that issue. just falling comfortably to sleep. i need that again more than i need anything else.

I too am feeling quite lonely late at night, alone in my bed. After a five year relationship including two years of engagement, you get used to having someone, always.

I do not regret my decisions though. I know they were right when I made them. But now I am left to wonder if I must wander alone for the rest of my life.

Do I resolve myself to that so that I cannot be hurt by others, or do I keep myself open on the off-chance that I meet the right lady, but risk the daily torment and heartbreak of having found no one?

It is a difficult choice.

That's funny, Limer. Coz the other night, after coming back home and having the Chef Boy cuddle against me, the thought that, if we do indeed move in together, there won't be any more nights with the bed to myself was too unbearable.
I don't sleep well with people. I like cuddling, it's nice, but I need space to spread my arms and legs and to turn the whole night through without interferance
And I never worry in be don my own (well, almost never). But if someone's there I lose all sleep, wonder about stuff, get distracted by other people's breathing, his arm bothers me, my neck hurts, I get grumpy, I realise I need to pee again, then I'm thirsty so I get water (which will make me pee again shortly), I curs ein my head against everything in the universe...

Separate beds are still an option. Some people find it works better for them.

It would have to be separate king-sized beds, though -I'm not settling for anything smaller!
or, my option: a bed the size of three king-sized beds (maybe four), so there's still possibility of meeting in the middle for cuddling and obviously sex, and then when he falls asleep I can just move over to one side and have loads of space to stretch. And in the morning i know he'll move over to wher eI am, so my laziness remains undisturbed

worst thing, clover, is that when it's anyone else other than my ex, i agree. but i'll know i've found the right guy when i have that as well as everything else. if i can be comfy asleep, then i'll be happy.

Now I really do have the urge to play Scrabble.

i should stop watching buffy. spike just ... mmph. he drives home my need for sex.

At this point in time it would just be something to do.

I agree about Spike being...RAWR!

and the boy has a hell of a set of pipes. that's sexy too. favourite episode? the one where he shows buffy how he killed slayers. the billy idol look... oh my god how much does that work for him

That episode of Buffy is just insane. Which one was it number wise? I need to watch it again on DVD

Oh, and if I was gay, Spike would be my man.

Hmmm, and I also am making the observation that Limer is the only one who can simultaniously post in the "I need to get laid" and the "I just got laid" threads.

anyone can post in both at once. depends how highly strung your libido is. i guess mine wins, though.

and it's in season 5. erm, episode early on, i believe. 7. Fool for Love? something like that.

(It is indeed Fool for Love, episode seven of season five, featuring not only Spike a la Billy Idol, but also Drusilla and Spike's meet-cute, the origin of Spike's Coat of Ultimate Coolness and the beginning of the end of Riley and the middle of the end of Joyce. Good ep.)

(And the beginning of the Spike-Buffy Relationship of Smouldering Hotness. Watched those episodes while not being laid, and I suscribe to Limer's post, it's not good for your health.)