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Thanks. What's ass-like is bawling and pouring this out in front of you all Smile But it's one of those things, a huge wave of emotion that just comes over me, and then I have to let it out, or I don't know. It's cathartic, obviously, and that release valve is necessary or I think I'd explode.

Whoosh!

And then I'm calm, and a bit more clear headed (though I have a splitting headache right now).


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And I've just started the letter Smile It's actually coherent so far, though to be honest I have only written two paragraphs. But a journey of a thousand steps and all that Smile


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I might be too late, but *hugs*



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Thanks. What's ass-like is bawling and pouring this out in front of you all Smile But it's one of those things, a huge wave of emotion that just comes over me, and then I have to let it out, or I don't know. It's cathartic, obviously, and that release valve is necessary or I think I'd explode.

Whoosh!

And then I'm calm, and a bit more clear headed (though I have a splitting headache right now).


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pouring in extra *hugs*


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I'm sorry I haven't chimed in earlier. You've received great advice from everyone and I'd expect no less from your board family.

I don't envy you at all. I know this hasn't been easy for you. No one said it would or should be.

I don't feel sorry for you either though. As BeeZee said, this is being human. You wear your heart on your sleeve and that's what makes you one of the special ones. I know you'll get through this, whatever path it takes. And I'm absolutely sure that your relationship with your wife and daughter will be stronger because of this.

I don't like to see you hurt or struggle, but somehow this will be a good thing.

You know how to get in touch with me if you ever want to talk.


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I'm re-reading the thread in its entirety before jumping back in to more writing this morning. I'm to the rejection point of the letter now, and this struck a particular nerve.
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I really don't feel like I can win this, to make this right. I'll end up doing what's best for me, and hurt him in the process, and hurting him just should be what's best for me. Y'know?
Yes, sometimes the extents of what can make us feel better might have cruel repercussions. It's the problem I'm facing too, I want to be honest but it sometimes seems like my honesty is a manifestation of cruelty and pettiness. What is good for ourselves is not always the best for others, and the moral implications of this simple fact can be infinite and quite nerve-wrecking. I'm not advocating hedonism, as it easily becomes selfishness, but there are situations in which you must make yourself the priority and I believe this is one of them *hugs tightly*

What I'm finding, just now, is that honesty makes it easier. Since I really do hold no grudges, since I've forgiven him (and already said so earlier in the letter), honesty seems to be making it easier to write, making it less cruel. I think it's because I am being honest with myself and with him that I know deep down I'm not being cruel, and that my feelings aren't petty. I know it. I feel it. So telling him thanks but no thanks is how I feel, not out of anger or spite or wanting to hurt him, but because it's what I need. As long as I'm honest, and compassionate, I think I can make this work.


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*more hugs*

Also, what my husband said. You can talk to either or both of us anytime.


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I'm sorry I haven't chimed in earlier. You've received great advice from everyone and I'd expect no less from your board family.

I don't envy you at all. I know this hasn't been easy for you. No one said it would or should be.

I don't feel sorry for you either though. As BeeZee said, this is being human. You wear your heart on your sleeve and that's what makes you one of the special ones. I know you'll get through this, whatever path it takes. And I'm absolutely sure that your relationship with your wife and daughter will be stronger because of this.

I don't like to see you hurt or struggle, but somehow this will be a good thing.

You know how to get in touch with me if you ever want to talk.

Don't be sorry, my friend. There's never an obligation to post, even in a thread/situation like this. You know that, but I just wanted to say it Smile As you say, I've received a lot of great advice, and I appreciate all of it. I also appreciate the encouragement that I will get through this. It sounds so funny to say, but sometimes the whole situation feels over my head and it's easy to feel like I won't get through this. It's nice to have the reminder, that I have the strength and that I'm doing what I need to do. Thanks, Mattvid, and everyone.

Finished reading, so going back to writing. I have a feeling the first draft of this will be done today! Smile Stay tuned.


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98% done and I am happy. Taking a much deserved break and gonna come back to it later, then let Rae have a read and see where I am by the end of the week.

Thank you all!


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It feels really weird knowing I'm sending this tomorrow.


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Bit late to this thread but ~hugs~ anyway.

I think you've been given some very good advice & you've made a decision that's tight for you.Smile Naturally, it's going to feel weird, especially as it's been on your mind for so long.
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So Rae and I talked for 3 hours last night. I think the finality is an issue. I think it's the right thing, but thinking it and doing it are very different. I'm not sure I'm sending this today. I dunno, we'll see.


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I just printed off what I think is the final version. I think I'm dating it and signing it and going to put it in the mail tomorrow or Friday. This is a pretty pointless post, but I wanted to let you know the status. So many of you have given me great advice, offered kind words, supported me, just listened while I cried and poured out my heart on my sleeve. I feel I owe it to you to the end Smile


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*hugs*



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*SmilehugsesSmile*


 
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Wow. I've just read this thread. You lot are amazing.

Good advice everywhere. It must be so good to be able to speak about your troubles to the people on this board and get such a decent perspective on it.

I do hope he accepts your letter the way you write it JP and that you can relax a bit and not worry about it too much in the future. I cannot imagine how hard it must be for you.

Good luck JP. x


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The letter is out in today's mail! Thanks so so very much to all of you for everything. It is much appreciated.


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I've just been reading as I was too confused in my own mind to say anything sensible, but reading this last page, you seem to have arrived at a very sensible, calm point, and a good set of decisions. Congratulations on getting there, and on posting the letter. Good luck for whatever follows after. x


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