This isn't criticism - it's an honest question: Why do people post that they just got laid in the aforementioned thread? What's the motivation behind it? Inquiring minds want to know!

i would expect that it is as an antidote to the i need to get laid thread?

to provide closure. a happy ending to a tale of woe.

So people like me can come on and say "a plague on all your houses"

pbbbbbbttttttt............

I thought we were gloating no?

Well I was gloating.
You know... rubbing it in the noses of those not getting any.

Please, I'm sure your wife wouldn't be happy that you're rubbing it in anyone's face but hers- and right after she's slept with you, too.

If a married person feels that having sex is noteworthy enough to merit a mention in *that* thread then - unless they`re serving military or on an oil rig someplace - what does that say about their marriage? Surely they`re getting laid on a regular basis...

Well, hrm...I'd like to say something to that.

1) Sometimes even married sex has its quirks and highlights that one likes to brag about. (It's not all missionary position 101, you know.)

2) I've decided that I won't be posting anymore on this thread because it wouldn't be fair on my husband. Who is hopefully NOT detailing our love life to his mates.

3) When you're in a long relationship or marriage, there is a danger of other things taking precedence over sex, unless you actively counter this tendency. It's the idea that "we've got all the time in the world" and gee, we still have to go shop for a carburetor and the cats are throwing up over our carpet and the gas bill just came in, lets talk about that. So it's not like married people automatically get laid three times a day.

4) So, sex is great and wonderful and we get a high from it just as non-married people do, that makes us want to talk about it.

5) We have a saying here: "the gentleman enjoys and keeps his mouth shut". I'm going to adhere to it from now on.

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Originally posted by Knave of Onions:
Surely they`re getting laid on a regular basis...

*snort*

Right

Uh-huh

I didn`t mean to imply that married people weren`t having as much great sex as the rest of us but rather to make an argument that having a regular source of sexual gratification in their husbands/wives means they have an inherant advantage in the sexual arena that is denied to those who have to go through the sheer torture of the dating process even to steal a kiss, let alone a multiple orgasm. The achievement on their part must therefore be a lesser accomplishment.

I would of course make an exception for those couples whose desire or enthusiasm has led to the coitally inhibitive state known as parenthood. Let no-one doubt what an effective passion killer those sleep depriving, constantly crying poop factories we call babies and small children can be. Any parent who still has in them to become aroused after being woken for the umpteenth time to change a diaper or can still be aroused by the sight of their tired partner who resembles a zombie after twenty four hours of going without sleep has truly a hero/ine in my estimation.

As you might have seen in nature documentaries, when lionesses have finished sexual intrcourse, the lie on their backs and do some weird kind of shimmy-dance while lying down with a great look on satisfaction on their face.
To me, that thread is equivalent to that
Also, to Babe of the Abyss: probably married couples have it "easier" to get laid... but that doesn't mean last night's shag was very memorable (speaking for myself, now I'm in a serious relationship [aargh!] yeah, I can get sex every time I sleep with my boyfriend, but my shags were, proportionately speaking, much more spectacular when I was single, coz you never knew when your next one would be.)

I suspect there must come a point when you`ve tried out every possible variation in sexual positioning known to man and familiarity with your loved one`s body leaves you jaded and unsatified. At which point you either have to introduce a third party into your relationship or start over from the beginning with someone else. What if relationships are like tyres - they only have so much mileage in them before they go bald and you`re riding on nothing but air?

I suspect there must come a point where you've tried every good food available in your vicinity. At which point you will have to stop eating here and start anew on a different continent.

The supermarkets are pretty good at importing stuff, largely due to global supply chains and in response to customers who are travelling ever further off the beaten track for their vacations. And if they won`t stock an item, most foodstuffs can be ordered through specialist online retailers for a price. My trouble is that I`m hooked on constant stimulation and novelty whether in culinary or *other* areas. Sometimes I feel like the Flying Dutchman or the Wandering Jew of medieval myth. Gods that`s depressing isn`t it?

i think that's possibly the least attractive view of sex i've heard in a good while.

if you look at sex as being apart from a relationship rather than a part of then yeah, infinite variation isn't going to exist.

In a proper relationship i always find it amazing how the same thing feels different... so it is different.

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constant stimulation and novelty

....is not the point of a relationship. Any kind of relationship.

Of yourse two people can and should explore different aspects of life together.
But the point of the relationship is the company, not the exploration.

A relationship is the constant renewal and celebration and deepening of those aspects that attracted you to begin with - not the constant finding of new aspects.

To clarify, I look on sex as an ephemeral aspect of a relationship. A pleasant bonus but not strictly necessary to that relationship in much the same way that you can have different - and changing tastes - in reading matter, movies and food without any fundamental effect on the core basis of your relationship. Thus I can go outside to suppliment my appetite and have no objection to my current partner doing likewise. Human beings ain`t possessions but march to their own drumbeats.

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Originally posted by Babe of the Abyss:
Human beings ain`t possessions but march to their own drumbeats.

Which is why your own statement does not hold true:
"I suspect there must come a point when you`ve tried out every possible variation in sexual positioning known to man and familiarity with your loved one`s body leaves you jaded and unsatified."

The only way that this could be a valid argument would be if you're a very boring, routine-lover perosn with no imagination who doesn't watch stuff or read stuf for talk about stuff with anyone, and your partner is an inflatable doll.

Coz, people change, experiment, imagine, see things and want to copy them, or improve them... I define myself as single my nature, and every time I'm in a relationship I know there'll be a point where I beocme single again coz I don't believe in me being in a serious relationship.
Still, I find it truly impossible that sex with someone will eventually beocme something where no new things can be introduced (hee-hee, I said "introduced" ). Of course sex with a partner can be boring, but not coz there's nothing new to do or to discover.

(And I'm not just talking about kinky stuff, btw, you might discover a new tenderness, a new hot spot, or maybe your liking of something you didn't use to, coz with this person it feels good after all.)

(And, despite all the fancy food in your area, town and supermarket, despite the online food suppliers, despite everything exotic you can eat in the world, still one of the foods we like most is what our grannys cook.)

(Which just conjured a very disturbing mental image.)

Ahh, but as a child I dreamt of being a world famous explorer in the manner of Columbus, Magellan, Cook, Lewis and Clark etc.. and I was utterly crushed to be told that the entire world had now been mapped from space and man had been everywhere from the frozen Poles and the deepest ocean to the Moon itself. That was the point that I began to look outwards to the heavens and started to read sci-fi and fantasy books. It was also when I began my lifelong analysis of my own inner soul, in the hope of finding there the new frontiers that the finite world denied me.

Likewise there must come a point in any attachment when the partners have explored every inch of one another, ran through the entire Kama Sutra or whatever and know each other`s habits and desires inside out? What other options are left for either to progress than to move on and begin the adventure anew with another person? The imagination may have an infinate scope but our physiology does not. Every journey has a beginning and an end.

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Or-

You can reach the point where your partner and you have drifted so far apart that just having them get amorous creeps you out.

And if you ask "why still together?"....that's another whole conversation.

I hear you. Been there and done that. Bought the DVD extended Director`s cut version. Right now, I`m not sure whether a lifelong attachment to one person is a romantic pipedream or more like having your leg caught in a bear trap and you have to chew it off to escape.