listening, a sense of fun, laughter, technique, passion and tiiiiiiiiiime

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Originally posted by jp:
I don't think anything you can think of are hard and fast rules

*snicker*

hard and fast totally rules.

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Originally posted by Babylon the Bride:
hard and fast totally rules.

Glad I'm not the only one.

I love this thread.

(And I love you tooooooo, Miss Amy-Alien-pata-person! )

Oh, and someone needs to make the obligatory smart -ass:

"Lot's of it."

It would just not feel complete otherwise.

for me, the best sex i had was with someone who i loved, who was *enormous*... and who had the best technique i ever experienced. i believe, quite honestly, that i won't ever find someone else who hits all those buttons with me in quite the same way. we had the most amazing chemistry ever, and that contributed an *awful* lot.

i've always wondered about whether size really makes that much of a difference...because i have always heard stories like what you describe...but my partners have always been in the same size range...medium...not too small or too large...and they were always able to satisfy me. so does someone who is *enormous* just fit better? or is he able to access the G-spot easier? there is someone i like who is reputed to be huge in that area...but i would be somewhat worried about being intimate with him. because what if he was so big that it was uncomfortable...i knew a girl in college whose boyfriend would always make her bleed after sex...because she was so small and he was on the other end of the spectrum. and how would you satisfy a man like that orally without choking to death?

to be honest, i'd prefer to stick with "average" guys. something that big wasn't really designed to fit into the average 5inches of space that a woman has....

but yes, he managed to hit my g-spot nearly every time. don't know if that was a technique thing or what.

Free pizza.

Generous tipping.

(Wait, I'm in the wrong thread, aren't I?)

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Originally posted by Limertilly:
to be honest, i'd prefer to stick with "average" guys. something that big wasn't really designed to fit into the average 5inches of space that a woman has....

but yes, he managed to hit my g-spot nearly every time. don't know if that was a technique thing or what.

i really do think it's a matter of technique...because if a man is the size of an elephant and doesn't know what to do with it...then you're better off with someone smaller who actually has a clue.

'hung like a harvest mouse'

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Originally posted by Matt Cable:
'hung like a harvest mouse'

Um, the article states that "the researchers compared the relative bone size..."
And why is that researcher's glove wet???

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Originally posted by thegirlthattimeforgot:
i really do think it's a matter of technique

But how do you learn?

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Originally posted by NicholasRidiculous:

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Originally posted by thegirlthattimeforgot:
i really do think it's a matter of technique

But how do you learn?

RTFM, of course: Read The Fucking Manual!

Practice!

How do you learn?

communication with partners...

I always like to learn new things... but i'm not jealous, which i'm told isn't universal.
I don't really mind people talking about their exes.

This message has been edited. Last edited by: Mischief the enigmatic Polarbear,

I don't even think it takes talking about your exes. One doesn't have to couch it as "ooh boy, when I was with him, he did this, would you do that too?" Hell, just use your sexual imagination, communicate, and be respectful. Rae and I have only ever been with each other, but that hasn't kept us from trying things, giving cues on what we like and don't, or saying we don't really like something and don't bother trying it.

I think a lot of it boils down to communication, before, during and after (and obviously not EVERY time). I think you learn my putting your hand there and hearing her moan rather than pushing your hand away. I think you learn by biting him there and later, when you're laying there exhausted after sex he says, "oh hell, when you did that, it put me over the edge". I think you learn by heating things up then whispering "hey, you wanna try this tonight?" and seeing where it goes.

All of this isn't to say that you need to over think and over communicate your sex life, but if you're not getting what you want, you need to do something about it.

Sex-talk is sexy!
If you can talk to your partner, and not be too self-conscious (i'd personally be reticent about mentioning previous partners) it *can* be a turn on too!

And yeah, size is nice, but it's not the be-all and end-all. Again, size is nothing when compared to compatibility. If everything just *works* just like that. I had a lover like that, and truthfully, that was amazing. I also had one who was too much for me, and that required a lot of yoga. Most guys however are "nicely thank you" which is good enough for me .

ETA: This sounds like i've had *hundreds* of lovers. But no. So this is just my experience.