This seems like the place to post this - now you can check sexual histories.

Okay then, the difference between sex with two guys, both with a similar lousy technique. One has a small penis and one has a large one. Which is going to be better?

Lousy technique doesn't matter, as long as they're willing and open to learn. Even good technique, I daresay, doesn't matter if the guy is not willing to be cooperative -he might know some good moves and tricks, but not all women are the same, and if he's doing whateve rhe's doing too quickly but you like it slowly, or if he's being soft an doyu like it hard... then you're not going to enjoy it. It's not about technique, it's about being perceptive about what your partner is liking.

Size doesn't matter either: a poor performance with a large penis is still a poor performance, and there can be issues of pain and being uncomfortable.
A poor performance with a small penis, on the other hand, can be equally unsatisfactory coz then you might not even realise what he's doing.

So, to answer your question, the better lover will be he who can sense what I want, who is enjoying what he does, who can communicate what he wants and how, and who wants us both to have a good time. And that has nothing to do with size.

Bravo, clover!

Summary for NicholasRidiculous:

Dude, find out what makes her moan.

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Okay then, the difference between sex with two guys, both with a similar lousy technique. One has a small penis and one has a large one. Which is going to be better?

Lousy technique is lousy technique. If they simply keep thrusting, neither of them is going to get anywhere. Variety is key here.

And seconded: moaning is usually a good sign
Another simple little trick: (girls, d'you find this works for you too?) During sex, press on a womans lower-belly, between the navel and the pubic area. Somewhere in there is the girls G-spot, and you might find that simply pressing gently can enhance stimulation....

<spontaneous thought>Oh dear. Somewhere in there is my bladder, too.</thought>

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Originally posted by Babylon the Bride:
<spontaneous thought>Oh dear. Somewhere in there is my bladder, too.</thought>

Too funny, that's what I was thinking too: isn't that just gonna make her wanna pee?

Actually, the need to pee and the *ohmygoshohmygosh* feeling are very very similar.

Oh-kay... Too much information alert!
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For some women, a g-spot orgasm (or getting towards one) can feel distractingly like needing to pee. See that you're relaxed, have been to the loo etc. etc.
Also too much friction can be *extremely* sensitive. Go gently.

*ahem*

Yep.

Advice from a women's mag: "If you start panicking because you need to go to the loo, just think: It's only furniture".

Bwahaha!!

(Advice form mags usually sucks, though, just read this feature 'Sex-related things you need to know at 30', with such pearls as 'masturbation can be great!'. Dude, if you don't know that WAY before 30, you're in trouble...)

Yeah. That was part of my reason for starting this thread. I've read so much bullshit advice. ("It's only good if you multiple orgasm!")

I was starting to wonder whether there was some kind of EU-norm for good sex!

It's on form E-6295-B-7. Fill it in duplicate, one copy on pink paper, one on yellow paper. File it with the local orgasm control agency.

And apparently having a full bladder makes your orgasm better. Don't remember where I saw that, though.

Was it in porn?

Sounds like messy porn . . . .  

Nope. It was in a magazine. Can't remember which one. Probably Cosmo, as that's the one I used to have a subscription to.


And I don't get the appeal of "water-sports" porn. I just don't.

As far as technique and learning what to do goes, I really did think that marriage would eventually lead to a dull sex life, but there's so much change over time, hormonal, physical and emotional, that it really never gets dull.

Agreed.

Thirded