fourthed, with the qualifier- as long as you both keep trying. Some people seem to feel that once they are married they don't need to put out any further effort.

That's a great point and so true!

Actually, that's true of not just sex, but all aspects of the relationship.

Yeah, definitely. What I love about a marital relationship is, you make mistakes in all parts of the relationship and so everything comes out on the balance.

Yeah, sure, your new seductive bedroom technique bombed, but you took out the garbage without being asked. And, yeah, she forgot to get the chicken out of the freezer so you had to order pizza again, but she also paid the two utility bills you'd forgotten about.

bump

I think technique is important. But the best technique is developing keen perception of how your lover is feeling. If you don’t have that you’ll never learn anything. You can’t fake sincerity. Many people simply have sex to please themselves.

Size is very important with some women because they have a second G-Spot very deep, almost around their navel. Luckily it is uncommon. Being with a big guy isn’t that bad. After about a month or so it stretches out. If left for a few weeks it starts shrinking again. Also women with that deep G-Spot often ovulate during intense orgasms, you’ve been warned.

Sex is an expression of who you are. There is no magic recipe. You can teach the mechanics. Where the g-spot is and maybe a Post It note, “Remember the clitoris dummy.” Then there is desire, someone desiring you is quite an aphrodisiac. And of course feeling that someone really cares about you. Then there is the X-Factor. Some people are just sexy as hell. Some people have so much X-Factor you can hate them and the sex is still amazing. They give you that look and instantly you are in flames. The worst is those sexy beasts that know they have X-Factor. They can get away with anything. Sexy bastards.

*Gets lost in daydream about sexy bad girl with x-factor, forgets what we were taking about*

fifthed and agreed with jena, always keep trying

You know, I never thought size mattered that much until more recently... but it does. Some just fit better... that doesn't mean it has to be large. It means that a specific man and woman may fit together better.

I think there might be something in the actual chemistry as well - pheremones are powerful things.

Of course, being like minded (and sexy minded) is very helpful.

Enthusiasm! Being wanted is such a turn on.

Communication.

Love - even if that is in a mutual respect, friendship kind of way.

getting it?

It's all in the timing.

Of the cowbell. ]=D

Also, rope.

or handcuffs.

what?? i'm just following his stream of consciousness! or whatever!

Handcuffs?

You people are fucked up.

A lot of things others have said: care, love, a willingness to be open, to try to learn what the other person likes/what works for them, willingness to try to learn and be better, some basic skill/knowledge, enthusiasm, (the sexiest/best thing of all, I think), etc. Or, alternatively...

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Originally posted by Alinda, the lost girl in long stockings:
or handcuffs.

or blindfolds, or handcuffs and blindfolds, and hot candle wax or melting ice that drips down onto your skin in cool drops that then has to be licked up by a warm tongue, and BDSM games and roleplaying and how did I forget dirty talk, and...

*Looks around*

What? Like I'm the only one.

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Another simple little trick: (girls, d'you find this works for you too?) During sex, press on a womans lower-belly, between the navel and the pubic area. Somewhere in there is the girls G-spot, and you might find that simply pressing gently can enhance stimulation....

Can't speak for the girls, but I've been using that to good effect lately, mostly when going down... another, similar trick is to use a pillow under the girl's hips when in missionary, which changes the angle and allows for much more direct hitting of the G-spot.

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Originally posted by TwiliteMinotaur:

You people are fucked up.

If only it were true, then we wouldn't need the get laid thread.



Handcuffs aren't a bad idea, but I'm totally against the furry novelty ones.

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Originally posted by ~nattie~:

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Originally posted by TwiliteMinotaur:

You people are fucked up.

If only it were true, then we wouldn't need the get laid thread.



Handcuffs aren't a bad idea, but I'm totally against the furry novelty ones.

Of course! They don't work. He can just break those little things right apart.
You certainly don't want that. It ruins the whole thing.

*smirk*

Easy, guys.. I take my pants off just like the rest of you - one leg at a time. Except, once my pants are off, I make golden... pancakes.

chocolate flavoured whipped cream. if you had a light dinner though, otherwise you might just end up throwing up.

just bringing up ideas here.

"bringing up" wasn't intended to be a pun, i hope.

and fluffy handcuffs are lame as hell. it's all about the pain of the metal stressing against your wrists anyway.

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Originally posted by Limertilly:
it's all about the pain of the metal stressing against your wrists anyway.

Oh, I disagree. It's about restriction of movement and rendering the tied-up person helpless. The cuffs (or whatever you use) don't have to hurt. But they have to work.

yep, i agree with tis on this. handcuffs are simply more practical than a tie, which always comes loose in the least appropriate moment. *grumbles*