um...no.

muenster?

i like muenster, so...sure!

oh man, i made the most kickass grilled cheese sandwich with muenster once...

Dear Cobalt,

How does one deal with being locked in the same aprtment for 6 days with a Jewish mother without committing a crime of any sort---crime as in against society or against the Ten Commandments?

Thanks,

Jewgirl

ha! it's not easy. the best way to go about it, i think, is not to take anything that seriously. and also remember that we're commanded to honour our parents, but not necessarily to obey them.

good luck!

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Originally posted by Cobalt:
i like muenster, so...sure!

oh man, i made the most kickass grilled cheese sandwich with muenster once...

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Once? What, no repeat because it was a work of art?

i did make it other times, and it was still good, but not as good as that one time...truly, i was the King of Grilled Cheese Sandwiches that day.

Oh Cobolt where art thou?

my love life is complicated, i need sage guidance....

Dear Cobalt,

I'm tired.

The end.

um, hi.

here i am.

just haven't been feeling very posty of late, i guess. not sure i have anything valuable to say to anyone these days.

but if you do have stuff you want to ask or talk to me about, please feel free. i will try to help. it would probably be nice if i haven't entirely outlived whatever usefulness i might once have had. yeah.

*hugs Cobalt*

Well i think you have valuble stuff to say

anyway

As for advice

Whats your opinion on long distance relationships?


I've just meet someone that lives in my old city, they have asked me to give them a call when i'm next in town and i do plan on moving back in a few months.

Ah, bullshit, Cobalt. I'm not going to harrass you to post if you don't feel like it, but your comments are always welcome.

Dear Cobalt,

I'm having balance problems. What's the proper amount of pestering and bugging the Object of One's Affections ("I'm heeeerrrrrrreeeeee! Pay attention to me!!!!!!!! I like you and think you're groovy and I want to seeeeeeee youuuuuuuuuuu") and leaving them the hell alone? I don't want to leave them *too* alone lest they think I've lost interest. But I don't want to intrude.



amy

Dear Cobalt,

how do you deal with an unsettled break-up? Because if i try to put some distance it seems like we're never gonna be friends anymore, and if i keep up being close to the other one i feel really bad whenever i remember that we've split. And if i try to "look around" i feel guilty as if i were betraying him.
What should i do?

Leo '82

um, woah.

thanks, people. i'm really glad that you seem to find me somewhat useful. heh. it's nice to know. i'll try to help.

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Originally posted by halucinagenia:

Whats your opinion on long distance relationships?


I've just meet someone that lives in my old city, they have asked me to give them a call when i'm next in town and i do plan on moving back in a few months.

i personally don't think i'd ever go for a long distance relationship, because to me the whole point of being with someone is being with them, you know? there are lots of people i talk to who live far away, but they're friends. that said, you say that you are planning on moving back in a few months anyway so it's not like one of you would have to make some geographic sacrifice if things were to get serious. however, how often would the two of you talk or see each other before you moved back? would it even really be sufficient interaction to gain relationship status? would it be possible just to be friends and get to know each other better in a non-romantic sort of way until you move back, when at such time you can start out with the more serious and/or dating part of things? i think that's what i would recommend. that way you wouldn't be limiting your options but you wouldn't be shunning something potentially beneficial either. does that make any sense?

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Originally posted by aitapata:
Dear Cobalt,

I'm having balance problems. What's the proper amount of pestering and bugging the Object of One's Affections ("I'm heeeerrrrrrreeeeee! Pay attention to me!!!!!!!! I like you and think you're groovy and I want to seeeeeeee youuuuuuuuuuu") and leaving them the hell alone? I don't want to leave them *too* alone lest they think I've lost interest. But I don't want to intrude.

oh my god, i have no fucking idea. for months i was in this same situation, playing this insane bullshit game of cat-and-mouse with someone who seemed entirely content to give no discernable signals whatsoever. i think the decision i came to was that you should interact with them as much as you like without being a pest. don't make them late for things. don't call after 11 PM. don't use silly voices (too often). basically don't appear desperate. what it comes down to is, if the person likes you, they will welcome any attention that you pay them. if they're not into you, it doesn't matter how much or how little you bug them. ultimately, don't invest too much heartspace in the person until you're sure there's something mutual going on.

i hope this helps.

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Originally posted by Alinda, the lost girl in long stockings:
Dear Cobalt,

how do you deal with an unsettled break-up? Because if i try to put some distance it seems like we're never gonna be friends anymore, and if i keep up being close to the other one i feel really bad whenever i remember that we've split. And if i try to "look around" i feel guilty as if i were betraying him.
What should i do?

ah, the tightrope. staying friends is always good if possible, so i'd recommend not going out of your way to avoid him, tho obviously you won't be spending as much time together as when you were, well, together. if you still feel guilty when you're "looking around" then you're probably not ready to be with anyone else yet, so you might want to limit that to actually looking; i'm not entirely convinced that the feeling of betrayal ever completely goes away, but it can learn to hide pretty well after a while. fundamentally, the most important rule of breakups is don't be stupid. if both of you are willing not to be stupid (which isn't easy, but basically consists of not taking it personally when the other person does things that don't really affect or involve you, and not doing anything intentionally to alienate or hurt the other person) then after a while the feelings will all begin to dull and cool and you'll feel more free to really be friends. but not being stupid only works if you both do it. that's what i would suggest, just use reason and tell yourself that your emotions only want you to be stupid. good luck.

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Originally posted by CancerDusk:
Ah, bullshit, Cobalt. I'm not going to harrass you to post if you don't feel like it, but your comments are always welcome.

hey, thanks. i guess i just wasn't entirely sure that everyone thought so for a while.

You know, I missed you, and I don't even like you that much. Actually, what I mean is that you're probably one of the people on the message board whose view of certain things would really get me riled, yet you're one of the people who make the boards for me. You were missed, really.

wow, thanks. that really means a lot to me.