*hugs wayfarer*

Thanks Fion. I know maybe it sounds innocuous but there's context here: they've been doing this to various people for a while. And this is a difficult week for me, i need to keep busy & sociable as much as possible. I thought they knew that.

it doesn't sound innocuous even without the backstory. i'd be gutted if a friend had done that to me

*more hugs*

Thanks, again.
~hugs back~
I prob will talk to them, but next week. I'm not going to be able to be reasonable this weekend, I know that.

Dear humanity,
The next person to betray me is going to get hurt. I don't mean I'll hit you. I will destroy your fucking life. Do not fucking cross me.
Fair fucking warning.

Dear Chrissy,

Don't ask for my honest opinion and expect me to lie to you. We've had this discussion before. If you want to make yourself feel better and justified, for the love of God don't ask me how I feel about the situation. If you're in the wrong I will tell you and if you can't deal with that then don't get mad at me for telling you the truth.

Aliro

Tacking 'no offence' onto the end of something doesn't change a thing.
- An open letter to a very bad habit.

Fuck the fuck out of you,

I drop everything to help you but every time I need some help you can't do it. Every single fucking time. Is it any wonder I want to get out of this half-assed place?!?

Fuck you very much, fuckhead.

Dear nameless,
If I had been running the meeting, you would have been put on your final warning. The only reason HR didn't do it was because they would have to follow your request to investigate the other girl and write her up on your accusations of defamation of character. Neither I nor HR thinks she deserves to be drug through anymore shit by you. Bullying everyone on your team until someone would tell you who made the confidential complaint about you not doing your FUCKING JOB was bad enough, but then going up to that person and telling her that she had no right to 'defame' your character by making a complaint in the first place, and that you were going to file harrassment charges against her is worse. Telling her that I hate her and can't wait to get rid of her, and that all her co-workers hate her back stabbing ass, and that no one would be sad if she quit right now, all of which you made up, makes me sure I will look the other way if she decides to kick your ass in the parking lot. And making the sweetest girl in the store, one of my best workers, cry because she thinks I can't stand her makes me sure that I will tell her to get back to work and kick your ass myself. If you want the hours, and you want to be treated with respect ACT LIKE A FUCKING ADULT AND QUIT LYING JUST TO HURT OTHERS!!! So take this as your fair warning. I have given you every chance I can give you. I cannot fire you without a final warning. But you will be broker than Hammer with the amount of hours I will be giving you.
Ever so sincerely yours,
Autumn

Dear me,
Be charming, be funny, don't come on too strong, and do not fuck this up.
sincerely,
reallyneedssomeonetocuddlewithagain

Dear Universe,

Things are looking up - can that keep happening for a while? Oh and could we maybe work in someone to curl up with in there?

-Me

From my blog.

Please, guys. A girl who's sitting in a public place, reading, is not doing it to provide you with an ice breaker. Not even at eight in the evening. Especially not at eight in the morning. She is well engrossed. She has no need for company. In fact, - think about what you're like when you're reading - sitting there with a book probably means she wants to be left alone to enjoy her book .
If, by any chance, she does want her mind taken off what she is inexplicably reading, she will at least look up from time to time to sample the surrounding distractions.

Don't be an intrusive and annoying fuck.

The result will just make both of us feel bad because then I'll look at you like you're the last person on earth I want to talk to because at that moment it's true and then you'll feel like the last person one earth people want to talk to which is probably not always true. I really don't need this type of conversation on my morning subway ride and neither do you.

Guy: What are you reading?
Girl: *holds up book, baffled and disoriented from being torn out of concentration, but polite*
Guy: *blares out title with atrocious accent*
Girl: *winces*
Guy: What's it about.
Girl: *wonders how to explain a novel about selfhatred, near-death cult, obsession and redemption to someone who is obviously not really interested* Er...it's complicated.
Guy: Come on, what's it about?
Girl: *loses temper* WHAT, DO I HAVE TO TELL YOU OR WHAT?
Guy: No! I'm just interested!
Girl: SO?
Guy: At least let me read the back.
Girl: *holds up book* But for fuck's sake, don't read it out loud.
Guy: *reads first sentence out loud*
Girl: *slams down book and glares*
Guy: *leaves*

i get unbelievably annoyed when people do that to me. it's such an imposition!

and *hopevibes* to ava and *hugehugs* to everyone else

*hands out fluffy happy things*

dear client

please stop changing your mind about every little fucking thing.

It was not easy to split our results into the categories you decided (after the initial research) that you wanted them displayed in.

It is not easy to now slot them back into our original categories.

It is even less easy to do this by 11am.

I am not having fun with this.

yours,

disgruntled office-bitch.

Good luck, Fion!

And yeah, I think these guys think it's a part of flirting to be "rogueishly pesky". And when you get annoyed they think YOU'RE flirting back.

But I don't know how to act anymore. What do guys WANT? Do they want you to say "fuck off and leave me alone" as soon as they open their mouths? And then they can be all hurt and say "hey, I was only asking!" and then complain in online fora about hysterical rude women never giving poor nice guys a chance?

Because if you're polite they just push more and they DON'T GET THE FUCKING HINT which is not so much a hint as a whack over the head with a fence pole.

- I don't look you in the face
- I am curt and try to ignore you
- I answer only what politeness dictates I react to
- I YELL AT YOU IN PUBLIC

What do guys WANT?!

And why am I so pissed off? Because I feel that I have to be polite and that that allows people to corner me and make me answer when I don't want to. I feel cornered.

quote:

Because I feel that I have to be polite

yep i get that problem for the same reason. although i'm quite lucky because guys rarely acost me in public. but beyond looking over his shoulder, looking over your own shoulder, giving one word answers and not asking him anything even remotely resembling a question, there's really not much else you can do!

but i think the sort of guys who don't take such obvious hints are probably the sort who would complain about hysterical women whatever your response.

Maybe I should just cut it all off by saying "I'm reading. leave me alone."

Dear calamities.

Why are you such fucking cowards? Really... am i *that* intimidating that you need to *gang up on me*? Are you too chicken to just face me calamity to woman?
Let me sum up:
Dear rental corporation: empty threats to evict me are not conducive to a good buisiness-relationship.
Dear rib : get over yourself
Dear burns on my arm : i'm ignoring you!
Dear people who shut off the water : can you give me a warning beorehand? So that i can at least get some mineral water to brush my teeth with? Or make some coffee with?
Dear you : wipe that self congratulatory smirk off of your face.
Dear boss / colleague / store : The *one* frigging time i don't check. You have *got* to be kidding me.

Sod you!
Yours
Fins

*hugs fins*

i'll gang up on them with you, if it'll help

quote:

Originally posted by Babylon the Bride:
Maybe I should just cut it all off by saying "I'm reading. leave me alone."

Yup. People like that obviously don't respect your private space, your private time and are clearly unsympathetic to the fact that when one reads, you don't want to speak at the same time with unknown random people (as fi there WAs a moment whne you would want to do that...).
As you say, you lose either way -if you're nice you get tangled in an inane and pointless conversation, if you hint they won't get it (if they were sympathetic, they wouldn't interrupt your reading int he first place) and if you're curt they'll call you a bitch. So, you might as well BE a bitch up front and save precious minutes.

Bitchiness by logic. *nods*

*hugs Fins*