I already vented in the Pissed Off thread, but now that I am calmer I need some serious vibes. Some long lasting vibes. Super powered glow in the dark bullet proof vibes.
I am setting up a meeting with HR this week for my team's biggest troublemaker, due to allegations she has made against me. She knows how to hurt others, and she is very angry with me because I haven't believed every word that has come out of her mouth. In her annual review last week I had to start by telling her that the reason some of her scores were so low was because she pushes blame for things on to other people rather than admitting that she is wrong. And that was just to keep her from interupting the whole time saying how something wasn't her fault. Anywho, the short term vibes are please keep me from saying anything that will actually hurt me in the meeting. She is the well known troublemaker that I can't get off my team because nobody else wants to deal with her, but I have a habit of speaking before thinking and I don't want any kind of credibility given to her allegations by me saying something stupid. Please, short term vibage.
And some long lasting vibes, good lucky vibes to keep me on the keeping my mouth shut track. I have to stop talking to my employees like they are friends, or even just human. If I keep it to "do this/don't do this" there won't be anything for them to twist around in order to use to hurt me when they are pissed.

MOW, I'm so sorry it's had to come to this. It's ridiculous that someone who isn't even an adult yet could have that much clout (you did say she's 17, right?) but your decision to not be as familiar with your employees is, unfortunately, one I've seen many of my bosses make for good reason.
*HUGS and VIBES* Good Luck with the meeting (been there, tried to do that) and I'll send along some slower but longer-lasting vibes too.

Ouch, that is a tough situation. We're pulling for you.

It shows how f-ed up I am right now over all this that I actually got misty again there. But 'good' misty, not 'evil people make me misty' misty.

It's a hard thing to deal with, for sure. I mean, I've only ever had to watch a supervisor deal with this stuff, but it was hard to watch.

Unfortunately, I've had to deal with this several times myself. On the upside I have had the distinct pleasure of firing several of them since then.

*hugs*

One thing that usually helps me is to make notes about the points I want to make in the meeting. Then when the time comes I can address those points, and check them off. This keeps me from saying more than I should, and makes sure I don't forget any points that i might miss because I'm upset.

*hugs and vibes for an excellent Mental Editor and the patience of a saint (your choice)*

Personally I always went with Joan of Arc because she was good at the "leading armies and smiting", but that may not be your best choice.

*hugs n vibes*

State the facts, back 'em up, keep your emotions in check, and get plastered when you go home.

Ouch, those kind of workplace situations really suck the life out of you. Just hang in there and try to stay calm.
*vibes*

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aw, that's a horrible situation.
~keep calm vibes~
I second CG's suggestion about making notes first as I found it helpful in the past.
You might also want to avoid the colours red/orange, if you can.
Also, avoid caffeine before & during the meeting, maybe go for mint tea instead.
Those may sound random, but I've found them helpful for myself.

*thirds the 'make notes' suggestion, and all of Wayfarer's ideas*

*both kinds of vibes*

I've got an excess supply of *hugs*! Hang in there.

I will send vibes along with my classic blessing I usually give married couples:

May your brain be engaged five minutes before your tounge

graf uses that alot around me..

*vibes*

*vibes*

Updating:
Our HR took me over to the store manager's office while we were talking about it. They both agreed that I should stay out of it (the meeting with the girl) and they would handle it. They were both really supportive, and hearing my HR hero get really upset for me was king of nice. Now I have to keep my schedule seperate from that employees to make sure I don't say anything stupid. Make sure her two days are the two that I am off, or something like that.
Thank you, vibeys! This whole situation sucks honeydew.